When I was a little girl, I couldn’t wait for Christmas morning to see what gifts were waiting for me under the tree. To this day, I still look back at pictures of little me and I can’t help but smile when I see that gleam in my eyes again.
Now that I’m older, I find myself looking to my children for their sense of wonder and excitement. But what if we could carry the joy of Christmas and gift-giving throughout the year? What if instead of giving gifts to others, we give gifts to ourselves but not in a selfish way? What if the gifts we give are intangible, yet truly meaningful gifts, that have the power to transform us from the inside out? Well, wonder no more. This year we’ll do something different, and we don’t even have to wait until Christmas. Let’s give ourselves gifts that keep on giving, starting right now. Are you ready? Here goes!
1. The Gift of Connecting with Nature:
Spend time outdoors, connecting with nature to rejuvenate and find peace. With generally good weather year-round, we have every reason to get outside and enjoy all the BVI has to offer. Maybe this year, you’ll go on more beach outings or finally join that hiking crew you’ve been seeing on Facebook. Whatever you choose, I’m sure more time outdoors will be good for your soul.
2. The Gift of Learning and Growth:
Cultivate a thirst for knowledge, whether through books, courses, or experiences, to stimulate personal growth. Is there something you always wanted to learn? Nowadays with so many options available to us online, it’s easier than ever to learn new skills or start a new hobby. Begin by doing a little research and you might even find courses that you can do for free. In 2024, there really is no excuse for not developing yourself, so take the bull by the horns and get started.
3. The Gift of Gratitude:
Gratitude comes from the Latin word ‘gratia’, meaning grace, graciousness or gratefulness. It is a thankful appreciation for what one receives, whether tangible or intangible. And believe it or not, gratitude is linked to happiness. According to a 2021 Harvard Medical School article, “gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.” (Giving Thanks Can Make You Happier, 2021) So, if you’re hoping for more happiness in 2024, gratitude is the way to go. Start by dedicating time to reflect on things you’re grateful for each day. Also consider simple acts such as praying, counting your blessings, or keeping a gratitude journal. Even thanking someone mentally counts as well.
4. The Gift of Self-Compassion:
For many driven and goal-oriented individuals, it’s easy and maybe even natural to be hard on themselves. This year however, it’s time to try something new. Treat yourself with kindness and understanding, embracing imperfections, and celebrating self-growth.
5. The Gift of Mindfulness:
Incorporate mindfulness into your daily life through meditation, silence, deep breathing, or simply being present in the moment. This simple gift will help you slow down and appreciate life more.
6. The Gift of Cultivating Relationships:
Nourish and invest time in relationships that bring positivity and support into your life. Perhaps you already have these types of relationships, if so, you’ll want to nurture them. If not, seek them out. You can start by connecting with people with similar goals or interests. Consider joining a book club, the local Toastmasters or commit to the regular game night in town. Find new ways to connect with new people and you just might be surprised by the friendships you develop.
7. The Gift of Boundaries:
Learn to set healthy boundaries to protect your well-being and maintain balance in your life. Do you have friends who are constantly draining your energy? Adult children who continually sponge off mom or dad? Perhaps this is the year to draw the line of loving boundaries. Instead of feeling guilty, consider that boundaries are there to protect both you and the other party, so look at it as a gift for you and them.
8. The Gift of Forgiveness:
If there’s one thing that will hold you back more than anything else, it’s a lack of forgiveness. I’m sure you’ve heard it said that forgiveness isn’t for the other person, it’s for you. That saying is so true. Unforgiveness is like a burden no one wants to carry yet very few choose to let go. Let this be the year you decide to let go of grudges and practice forgiveness, freeing yourself from the heaviness of negative emotions and old hurts. You’ll be pleasantly surprised how freeing it is to let go and leave that stuff in the past.
9. The Gift of Healthy Habits:
Prioritize your physical health through regular exercise, balanced nutrition, and adequate sleep. Let’s face it, none of us are getting any younger, but if you ever wanted to beat the clock, taking care of yourself is the way to do it. Even if you can’t buy yourself more time, you’ll probably experience more energy than you had before, and that’s almost like getting a new lease on life. It won’t happen overnight but taking care of your body is worth it.
10. The Gift of Volunteer Work:
One of the best ways to find fulfillment is by giving to others and what better way to do that than by giving back to your community. Engage in volunteering or community service to contribute positively to society and foster a sense of purpose. Those you serve will benefit from your service and so will you. It’s a true win-win situation.
11. The Gift of Presence:
Few things are worse than distracted living, yet in this modern age it’s so easy to fall into that trap. Counteract this by being fully present in each moment, savoring experiences and relationships without distractions. When in conversation with someone, put away your phone. Simple little practices like that can make a big difference.
12. The Gift of Celebration
Avoid the temptation of running from one achievement to the next. Taking time to acknowledge and celebrate even the smallest victories and achievements, will foster a sense of accomplishment and motivation.
Of all the gifts mentioned above, which gift are you most excited to give yourself? Start there this month. Then each month choose another gift to unpack. That way, you’ll keep on giving throughout the year and your best self will thank you.
References
Giving Thanks Can Make You Happier. (2021, Aug 14). Retrieved from Harvard Health Publishing – Harvard Medical School: https://www.health.harvard.edu/healthbeat/giving-thanks-can-make-you-happier
